Don’t Excuse Yourself from the Table of Vulnerability

by Christina Hubbard

Do you find it hard to be vulnerable with God and others? As a creative, I know this is one of the most powerful ways to connect. Yet, how often do we excuse ourselves from authentic conversations because they make us a little uncomfortable?

I’ve been seeing an amazing therapist for almost a year now. It’s amazing to reflect on my vulnerability journey. I have often longed for it, but the process would send me into an emotional spiral. With practice, it gets easier. Vulnerability creates depth and connection. I’m not advocating spilling your guts during every conversation. Instead, approach others with your whole self: in honesty, which can definitely be through laughter and curiosity.

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Three ways to create an authentic connection 

1. Ask open-ended questions.
2. Share a story of how you struggled and what you discovered.
3. Look at others through the lens of love. Thank them for who they are.

What I’m learning is being vulnerable is putting myself out there, no matter what others think.  I do care what others think, but I care more what God thinks. In that safe space, I am free to bring my whole paradoxical, utterly beautiful messy self to the table. Hopefully, others will feel like they belong here too.//

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This post was written in conjunction with Five Minute Friday. We write each Friday for five minutes on one word. Today the word was EXCUSE. (// indicates the start and stop of five minutes).

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November 17, 2017
  • I appreciate what you’ve written, Christina, and I especially like your practical suggestions for HOW to actually be vulnerable in a way that frees us and the other person to be our real, often-messy selves. Thank you!

  • Tara Ulrich

    Yes! This reminds me of all of Brene Browns work. It really is so hard to take that first step. Proud of you friend!

  • Yes, yes, and more YES! Christina, you are amazing. LOVE this post!!!

  • Lisa Streno Wenninger

    Yes!! Eye opening to this girl stretching those wings now. Lisa @ authentictruths

  • It’s hard to take that step sometimes, to know what to share. You don’t want to be the messy person others can’t stand to be around either. 🙂 but showing some more of yourself than sometimes you are really comfortable with, is sometimes what we need to do. Letting God lead…best option.

  • Kandi E. Schultz

    It’s such a tough balance sometimes. I think you described it well: “I do care what others think, but I care more what God thinks.” Great truth. Thanks for the post!